13 things you can do to restore your confidence after a failed interview

Your last interview was a flop and it’s taken a toll on your confidence. No worries. Here’s 13 things you can do to restore your confidence after a failed interview.

It’s normal for your confidence to take a dive after what feels like a failed interview but no interview is a failure if you extract lessons you can learn from it. Let’s look at what you can do to boost your confidence ahead of your next interview.

Tips to restore interview confidence and learning from a failed interview

  1. The first thing you need to do, if you haven’t already done so, is to ask for feedback from your last interview. Tell the company that this is important to you as it will help you to prepare for future interviews. Then make a note of the lessons learnt and how you can apply them.
  2. Make a list of the things you have done that you are proud of. What have you achieved at college, university and in work, paid or unpaid? If your confidence is so dented nothing comes to mind, ask those who know you and who you have worked with in the past.
  3. Next, make sure you know your CV back to front. Job interviewers tend to use the CV as a guide to talk through your application and you will be asked to elaborate on various points. Be ready. Knowing your CV will help you to talk about your strengths, weaknesses and achievements with greater confidence and honesty.
  4. Take along with you any achievement evidence you can use to demonstrate what you have achieved. This can include published articles, artwork, awards or letters of commendations, perhaps from customers or clients at a previous job.
  5. Research the company you have applied to. Just a few important facts will do. Look at marketing materials, the website, company brochures, local newspapers and annual reports. Look at their LinkedIn company page, the profiles of CEOs, interviewers, if you have their names, and other key employees. Find out what the company’s strengths are. How do they describe their mission, goals and values? Take time to consider these. Where do they fit in with your own mission, goals and values – can you find a synergy?
  6. Prepare with a mock interview. There are lots of example interview questions online you can use to get an idea of what’s typically asked at an interview. These include: What do you think you can bring to the role? Why do you want this role? What are your strengths/weakness? What do you consider to be your major achievement? Why are you the best person for the job? How do you manage yourself/time? What steps would you take to handle an irate customer/client? Why should we hire you? Note: please don’t over prepare to the extent that your answers sound robotic – it’s simply about having a general idea of what you might say.
  7. Have some questions to hand you can ask the interviewer. You can find some examples online too, but others may come up simply through the research you do on the company.
  8. See yourself doing well at the interview. Seeing is believing, and by seeing yourself in a positive light during the interview it will trick your brain into believing you will do well. See yourself walk into the room, smile and give a firm handshake. Tell yourself, “I am looking forward to my interview at … Company.”
  9. Wear something smart but comfortable for you, and give yourself plenty of travel time. Better overly early than even a little late. Take a few deep breaths before going into the interview room to help you to relax. Make eye contact and hold your materials in your left hand so that you can easily shake hands with your right without it feeling awkward.
  10. It’s okay to take a few seconds to think before answering a question and, as long as you don’t do this after every question, to ask the interviewer to clarify or repeat anything you didn’t understand.
  11. When answering questions, try to find a story to illustrate each one. Give examples of yourself in the exact scenario the interviewer is asking about. This will help the interviewer to build a picture in his or her mind of your capabilities, and it will leave a positive impression.
  12. An important part of your communication is body language. People only hear 10 per cent of what you say and the rest they ‘hear’ visually. So, smile periodically. Speak in higher energetic, not dull and tired, tones. Be enthusiastic. Use words that paint a positive picture – bright, boost, overcome, thrilled – and which feel natural to you. Using active words to describe your achievements – ‘I completed the task’, ‘I boosted results’, ‘I jumped right in’, ‘I grabbed the opportunity’ – can also help.
  13. Finally, leave a lasting last impression with a hearty handshake, warm smile and a “Thank you for seeing me.” Together, these tips can help restore your confidence after a failed interview. Good luck.

Together, these tips can help restore your confidence after a failed interview. Good luck!

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The 1 thing NOT to do if your mind goes blank during an interview

Do you worry your mind will go blank during an interview?What do you do when your mind suddenly goes blank during the middle of answering interview questions?

We’ve all been there – in the middle of speaking, you lose your train of thought, information at the tip of your tongue vanishes from your brain and your mind is completely blank.

You are not alone.

It has even happened to famous actors – remember the tongue-tied Sally Field during her 2007 Emmys acceptance speech?

While this may be no big deal when chatting with friends, it can feel like a catastrophe when it happens during a job interview.

Here’s what you should not do if your mind goes blank during an interview

The one thing you should not do if your mind suddenly goes blank during an interview is to sit there with an equally blank expression on your face!

The very best way to assuage these fears is to review a set of strategies that you can employ when and if the dreaded blank mind strikes you during an interview or other important speaking engagement.

So what can you do if you find yourself in this dreaded situation?

Here are 4 strategies to help if your mind goes blank during an interview:

  1. Silence can be golden – When you are in the middle of a brain gap, the seconds can feel like hours and you can become positive that everyone around you is scrutinising your silence. In reality, long pauses can actually be used to make your words more effective and can give you a few precious moments to collect your thoughts. Try practising in front of a friend and forcing yourself to pause for longer than you think feels comfortable. You may find that a strategic series of pauses can emphasise your points and drive home the message that you are thoughtful, well-spoken and level-headed. Use it in your favour.
  2. Be honest and ask for help – There is nothing wrong in saying that your mind has gone blank. If you find yourself struggling to remember what you were saying, try gently asking for help from your interviewer. Something along the lines of, “I’m afraid I got so caught up in what I was talking about that I seem to have lost my place. Where was I?” Your listener should have no problem prompting you to help you get back to your original point.
  3. Don’t be afraid of notes – Depending on the position for which you are interviewing, a small notebook that enables to you take notes during the meeting can make you seem like a smart candidate who plans ahead. Your small notebook will enable you to make brief notes as you go, or to bring in a general outline of what you plan to talk about. If during the interview you feel you want to digress in order to illustrate a point, you can jot down the original point you want to return to for when you need it, or vice versa.
  4. Say something – anything! Finally, and perhaps the most importantly – say something! If you remain silent with a panicked expression on your face, your anxiety and your interviewer’s trepidation will grow and grow. While you may feel a bit off-topic or rambling, saying anything relevant to your topic can kick start your brain back into high gear and get your interview back on track.

Why does your mind go blank during an interview?

two ladies in an interview setting. image for what to do if your mind goes blank in interviews.

Unless you have a medical issue, the cause of your blank mind is likely to be due to you becoming distracted. You have more than one thing on your mind and you are likely trying to remember them all at once.

During an interview scenario, the added stress of wanting to come across well to others can make us forget what we want to say because we’re juggling so many points.

Worrying over your interview increases the risk of your mind going blank.

The cruel irony is that the more you worry about coming up blank during an interview, the more likely it is to happen.

Chartered psychologist Bev Stone did some work on people who experience blank minds while presenting and says that it is better to be ‘distracted in that you’re not that bothered whether you win or lose’.

This is easier said than done during an interview when you want the job really badly but you will find that you will relax physically and mentally and therefore perform far better.

How to avoid brain freeze in an interview

As with all things in life, preparation is key.

We mentioned above, your mind goes blank during interviews because you become distracted.

An interview question that you did not prepare for gets thrown your way and your mind instantly starts racing through different potential answers triggering some interview anxiety followed by your mind going completely blank.

The truth is, most people do not put enough time into preparing for their interviews.

Before you attend your interview you:

  1. Must know what your key skills are and how they are transferable to the role that you are applying for.
  2. Should know the job description inside out and be able to outline some of the challenges that you might face in the role.
  3. Should have excellent answers for competency-based questions prepared in the STAR format.

Here at Graduate Coach, we train students and graduates on how to prepare for and excel in interviews. The 3 pointers above are only a few of many tips and techniques that we instil in the people we help. Who then go on to land their dream job after training with us.

Over the years we have helped many people who have suffered from interview anxiety and as a result, they lose confidence.

Many of them come to us reporting: ‘I go blank during interviews’ or that ‘I blanked on an interview question’. Others come to us asking: “why does my mind go blank when asked a question?”

If you can relate to this, get in contact with us today!

You can call us on: +44 (0)207 014 9547, or emails us on:

gethelp@graduatecoach.co.uk and one of our friendly team members will outline how we can help you to overcome your interview anxiety, regain your confidence and ultimately land your dream career!

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  2. To emphasise the importance of preparing for your interview we’d encourage you to watch this video:

In this video, Chris talks about the types of questions we need to be prepared for. He also elaborates more on what to do if you get asked an interview question that causes your brain to freeze.

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